The very first day I went out with my head filled with newfound knowledge from Double Your Dating, I was determined to push myself and make a huge effort. I had to take this very seriously in order to truly change my life for the better. Everyday I rode the subway about an hour to work, so my first approach took place there.

While riding the subway that day, the train suddenly stopped at a station and everyone was ordered to step off the train onto the platform temporarily while they repaired something. That’s when I saw her. Petite and extremely cute, standing by herself after having stepped off the train with the rest of us. Everyone was standing around, not really talking much. I wanted to try approaching her, but my nerves were giving out, and my heart was pounding. Minutes passed, and I just glanced at her over and over. She wasn’t talking to anyone and was kind of just standing off to the side by herself. Do it! I berated myself, but I couldn’t. Finally, the train operator announced repairs were complete and told everyone to reboard. We all began moving toward the doors, and I positioned myself to pass near her as we reboarded. Here she comes! It was now or never!

I caught her eye as we stepped toward the train, and I smiled (despite my pounding heart) and asked her, “Do you happen to know what was wrong with the train exactly?” I asked. She smiled back and was receptive right away. “Oh these things happen sometimes,” she said. “Are you not from around here?” And the conversation was off and running! We chatted on the train when it got moving again, and it turned out she was getting off on the same stop. When we exited the station together, we continued to walk for a while before have to go separate ways. I asked for her phone number, and she readily gave it to me.

We parted, and I suggested we meet up soon, to which she agreed. I told her I’d call her, and we went our own ways. My first street number close, a day after reading Double Your Dating! And with a mighty cute girl, no less! I was completely stoked. This stuff worked after all. I coudn’t believe it.

I went to work in high spirits, and slept that night full of more hope than I had had in a long time.

The next day, I took the subway again, and decided to try again. This time I saw a cute girl sitting on a crowded subway bench. I didn’t want to try talking to her in front of all the people who would overhear, so I just lay back and just kept checking her out.

But there was a subway transfer coming up that I had to take, and I decided that if she got off on the same stop, I would chat her up then. Lo and behold, she did get off at my same stop, and we both ended up walking toward the transfer station. I matched my pace with her, and told her, “Hey we were just on the same train together just now.” She seemed startled and a bit guarded, and she asked me if I needed directions. “No, I said, I just noticed you and wanted to talk to you.” She remained suspicious but didn’t run away, so I just kept talking, keeping my mouth moving. Finally, she warmed up to me and seemed to warm up to the fact that I was basically openly hitting on her. It turns out she was headed toward my same destination, so we boarded another subway train together and had a nice 15 minute chat. One random guy even came and stood close by, pretty obviously listening to our conversation, as it was pretty obvious I was conducting a pickup (with questions such as “What do you do for work,” “Do you always take this subway,” etc). I ignored the random guy and just kept working my game.

When it was time to part ways, I again asked for her number, which she gave to me easily and happily. We set up a meeting for the weekend, and again I was stoked and extremely pleased with myself.

So 2 days, 2 attempts, 2 number closes. Two for two, I was batting a hundred percent! This stuff was easier than I ever imagined. My excitement and hunger were growing. Thanks David DeAngelo! So far his ebook was worth every penny I had paid.

The next few weeks, I would talk to random girls as often as possible. I would simply chat them up for practice, even if I didn’t want their number or even if they were ugly.

I even made up a short “script” I would use to chatting up girls on the street. I’ve posted it below:

— Beginner PUA script —

–opener——————————————–
GO
i have a question
do you have a boyfriend
i bet you have a nice smile
hey i have a quick question… how would you describe yourself as a person?
“Hey, I’m looking for a woman’s opinion on something. My friend is trying to meet his next girlfriend. Where do you think he should go?”

–pacifier/ejector———————————-
sorry is that not done around here
sorry i just noticed you walking toward me and just wanted to see what were like
i didn’t want to regret not meeting you.  i think in life, many times you regret the things you did not do…
–fast endgame—————————————
i am busy now and have to go but i would like to get to know you better
can i meet you for coffee sometime?
what is your name?
i’m HeavyCav (give business card)
hey gimme your phone number.
can you take a call tonight? i’ll call you tonight
–midgame——————————————-
i’m from So-and-So
my name is HeavyCav.
what’s your name?
do you work around here?  what do you do
OR
you are a student?  what do you study?
random conversation
–midgame closer————————————-
well you seem like a good person [close]

–slow endgame—————————————
i have to go now but it was nice talking to you.
what do you think about meeting again?  we can get coffee
how can i reach you? (will you give me your phone number?)
(give business card)
can you take a call tonight? i’ll call you tonight
i will regret it later if i let you walk by and most likely we won’t meet again - would it be impolite to ask for your name and phone number

if she doesnt want to give you her phone number then just dismiss yourself politely

if she say yes, don’t act surprised, smoothly get a pen and paper and write her number

politely ask her “what would be the best time to reach you? ” wait 2 or 3 days before you call - dont seem too eager

dismiss yourself politely - “have a pleasant day”

notes - dont forget to give her your name after she gives you hers.
make adjustments as u see fit

— End PUA script —

After a couple months of this, my social skills, confidence, and success rate began getting better, but I was just working the daytime game (daygame) and number closing and meeting up with mostly HB6’s and HB7’s. I wanted to meet hotter girls, and I realized the really hot girls came out at night to the clubs.

So, with the little PUA knowledge I had at the time, I attacked the local clubs with sometimes one, sometimes two, of my totally clueless AFC buddies. I hit the town most often with one particular wingman, who lacked game but was extremely good-looking. We were enthusiastic but poorly skilled, like two eager puppy dogs.

We found the clubs were extremely hard to run game at. The girls were bitchy, and we had no solid way to approach them and attract them, especially the really hot ones. We really floundered at the clubs, besides the occasional lucky success. We would basically just go up to random girls and try to dance with them, with poor results usually. My friend had random luck sometimes because of his extremely good looks (like girls asking him for his number), but even he failed much more than he succeeded. Finally, after about 3 or 4 months of going out with me every weekend, he gave up going to clubs, saying all girls were bitchy and he didn’t need to go places to meet girls who thought they were better than him. Basically, he gave up clubbing with me, leaving me without a wingman.

This whole time I had very limited success with girls at the clubs, much less hot girls. I didn’t know at the time that there was PUA material out there specifically targeting nighttime club game (which would have helped me immensely back then), so basically I was trying my daytime approach at a loud, smoky, dark, fast-paced environment, and wasn’t doing well. I did get a few numbers and dates, but not of the girls I really wanted.

During the day, I continued to do alright chatting up random girls for practice, although I never really met a hot girl during the day either.

But where I really began shining was at “social circle” events, places where people gathered because of a common link, such as a birthday party or hobby club. My social skills in just everyday normal settings had really improved, mainly because I had become somewhat hardened to rejection. After being rejected by a hot girl, being rejected by some ugly dude really doesn’t carry a sting anymore.

And because girls operate under common courtesy at social circle events (they don’t just rudely tell you to f*ck off when you talk to them, for example), and there’s a level of trust already (people at such events usually know people in common), social circle events are like shooting fish in a barrel for experienced PUAs. Not that I was an experienced PUA by any stretch of the imagination, but even for me it was much easier than trying to sarge a club.

I went to various hobby clubs such as swing dance classes and language classes. One day at one of these social circle events, I resolved to talk to every cute girl in the venue, starting with the cutest and working my way down. I chatted up the cutest girl in the room but she pretty airheaded, so I moved on the the next cutest. This one was smart and playful, and we hit it off instantly. I got her phone number quickly, and we made plans to meet. Within a couple weeks, she had become my girlfriend, and I was reasonable happy at first.

UPDATE:

I ended up dating her for a long time, which was a good and bad thing. Ultimately I wasn’t really happy dating just this one girl. She was becoming somewhat emotionally dependent as well. Not as bad as my first girlfriend, but this girlfriend also preferred spending time alone with me instead of going out with other people. Once again, I found I wasn’t growing socially, especially when it came to my skills with women.

After a while, we weren’t getting along to well and we had a trial separation. I dusted off my newbie PUA skills and decided to hit a club with another buddy of mine (he was an AFC and had no knowledge of PUA). Stay tuned for what happened in my next post.