[NOTE: This self-intro was written in Oct., 2007]

Hey guys, I’m shyPlayer, or you can refer to my PUA handle, “HeavyCav.” I was born in Smalltown on the East Coast but moved to the West Coast as a very small child. I (relatively) recently came back to Smalltown about late 2004, where I started re-learning the local culture (and unlearning my West Coast mannerisms) and learning to speak in the “local dialect” again. I’m 32 now (which makes me a late bloomer :))

I started reading some PUA materials about 2005, when I bought a book by David DeAngelo called “Double Your Dating.” Using the info in the book, I was indeed able to double my dating, and I saw that a lot of stuff in the book really worked. I had more success with girls my first year back in Smalltown than all my previous 29 years combined, BUT you have to understand I had been a huge AFC in the West Coast and hardly got any play, so it wasn’t saying all that much!! Actually, I think most of my early success came from being somewhat “different” or “exotic” in a way as a West Coast transplant, and because I was introduced to many girls in a social circle format, which established my credibility and the girls’ comfort level from the very beginning.

I did start hitting some clubs and trying night game and cold approaches with some of my AFC buddies, but our success was very spotty and things were just frustrating in general. Although it was a blast to hang out with my buddies and horse around with them, we did not get near any true level of success with girls. In fact, one of my AFC buddies (a guy who was good-looking as hell and had “hired guns” such as waitresses and bartenders begging him to take their phone numbers) got so frustrated by his lack of success in doing club and cold approaches, that he gave up, saying all girls in Smalltown were stuck up b*tches.

Anyway, soon I found myself falling into a series of LTR relationships, so I basically stopped sarging after my first year back in Smalltown. Plus I had just turned 30 so I figured any dreams of “playboy” days were over. After all, what self-respecting 30-something goes out and tries to pick up chicks right? But I’m beginning to realize, that I need to stop being brainwashed by society into telling me what to do. If I want to go pick up 20 year old chicks, why can’t I right?

Well, after 2 years of being somewhat restless about being in an LTR, and working 100+ hours a week, and seeing all the cute young hotties all over Smalltown, I came upon a TV show on the Internet called “VH1’s The Pickup Artist.” When I saw that show in late 2007, something inside me clicked. I recognized myself in many of the guys, especially Kozmo, who had no reason to be scared of girls but was terrified of them, J-Dogg, a master pickup artist who had once been a nerdy software engineer, and the forty two year old virgin, who made me realize it’s never too late.

So here I am now with my budding PUA skills and a head full of PUA theory. I realized that it’s not what you know, but whether or not you apply what you know. It’s better to know very little and do a little, rather than to know a lot and do nothing.

Some practical notes, it’s hard sarging alone, and I tend to make all kinds of zany excuses not to make approaches. I want to meet a good group of guys who will push me out of my comfort zone and give me grief if I’m not pushing my skills and improving myself. I also want to watch PUAs better than me in action to learn from them, and eventually one day be able to guide PUA newbies myself. So far it’s been a blast.

Regarding the type of girls I like, I definitely like sexy girls. I’m fairly short (5′8″ on a very good day) but the good thing is that I like girls who are close to my height, which isn’t that hard to find. Long hair, sexy lips, and narrow waist is a big turn on. I think I am able to make girls feel very comfortable very fast. I’m non-threatening. The downside is that I get put into the friend or possible-husband category very fast as well, so this may not be a strength after all.

Currently, I’m stuck on approach anxiety. I want to be able to open any girls at will and, more importantly, keep the conversation going, while escalating the sarge of course. So far it’s been very difficult just going out and simply opening girls again, but I am doing beginner level exercises now (asking for directions, etc) and I am determined to succeed at this in the long term.

Personally I don’t see PUA as a way to seduce girls, but as a way to enlarge my overall social skills and life skills, and be the man that I have always felt I’ve been destined to be, yet didn’t know how to be. I think facing your own flaws and overcoming your fears is something every man should be able to do, whether picking up a chick or giving a presentation to a board meeting or teaching an art class to elementary school students, and I’ve felt that up to now, I’ve just been hiding behind the excuse of building a career and “being responsible.”

My long term goal is to not feel awkward or afraid of approaching anyone in any situation, whether it be a hot babe or the president of the United States. My ultimate goal is to settle down with the woman of my dreams. Casual sex is actually not one of my goals, believe it or not.

Well, that’s me, and I just want to say it’s great to start this blog, and I look forward to making many positive changes in my life!