So far, life in Smalltown hasn’t been what I expected. I’ve been making a concerted effort to be more social, meet more people, make new friends. But it hasn’t been going too well, and it’s much harder than I thought to be social, even in a brand new environment where I haven’t been pigeon-holed by anyone yet as a quiet loner. I’ve been trying my best to appear friendly and outgoing.

Romantically, after about 3 months I finally met one girl I was VERY interested in, a female friend of one of my new buddies. I had my buddy set us up on a date. After dinner together, she promised she would see me again in the future. I was super happy. This girl was just my type - long straight hair, dark features, slender and fairly tall, the most sexy narrow waist I’d ever seen on a girl.

I completely fell for her. Actually, I fell into what is known as “oneitis” — derived from “one” and the suffix “itis,” such as in the diseases arthritis, or colitis. One-itis is a terrible condition because it means you’re completely fixated on just one girl, and she can make or break you emotionally by her reactions to you.

I started calling her every day. She started feeling crowded. Soon she stopped returning my calls, then she stopped taking my calls. I was devastated.

Utterly lonely and desperate, I began searching the Internet for help on how to do better with girls. There must be info on this kind of stuff on the web right? There’s information on EVERYTHING online. Soon I found a promising site online called Double Your Dating, the brainchild of a rakish-sounding fellow by the name of David DeAngelo.

He gave some dating tips but charged a modest fee to distribute an electronic book (ebook) online, which promised to double ANYONE’s dating success, or get guys to simply start dating if they were hopeless (like me). I normally wouldn’t have paid for such info, but with my last experience with the oneitis girl, I figured the time had come to make a small investment in my future dating life.

I bought the ebook online and read through it voraciously. I won’t go into all the details, but there was actually quite a lot of eye-opening stuff in there, things I had never thought about and sometimes never even imagined. My excitement began to grow. Maybe I could get good at meeting girls and dating after all. Maybe I wasn’t hopeless. Maybe I could turn around my long years of dating loneliness and pain. I determined to put my newfound knowledge to use as soon as possible.

Later I would discover a whole online and offline community of guys looking to get better with women. This community was filled with so-called “PUAs,” or Pick Up Artists, and the whole lifestyle was referred to as the “Pick Up,” or “Seduction,” community. I don’t like the Seduction moniker personally, because my goal is to get better with women as potential dates and girlfriends, not sexual conquests or one-night stands, so I prefer Pick Up instead.

I would also find out that Double Your Dating was considered the fundamental basics, or beginner-level stuff, that most newbie PUA’s cut their teeth on. There was tons of other more advanced PUA material out there which I still had no idea about. Later I would discover this material and sort of run wild with it.

But first let me tell you what happened when I started using the information in Double Your Dating. Stay tuned for my next post!